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Welcome back dear readers, I write this blog with both a somber tone, and one of celebratory longing. A dichotomy of feelings in a time when the country as a whole is mourning, and yet looking forward to celebrating the upcoming Father’s Day weekend. I will touch on both of these subjects as I try to make my way through this journey we call life.
This past weekend, 50 people lost their lives in a tragic shooting incident in Orlando Florida. It was the single greatest loss of lives in this country since 9/11. As I digest everything that occurred in this event, one thing stands out that both disturbs me mentally and sickens me as a human being, the politicization and propagandizing of the event.
In a time when we as a people and a nation should be consoling the mothers, fathers, brothers and sisters of the people who lost their life, we are instead arguing, spinning, and using the event to promote agendas. I will neither lend credence to any of the arguments, nor will I detract from them. Instead, I will apologize to the families whose lives have been turned upside down and inside out from grief. I am ashamed of what we allow our media and politicians to get away with. There is a time for discussing policy and voicing our opinions on what occurred, but that time is not now.
So, I will get down from my soapbox and discuss the other matter at hand. Father’s Day is this Sunday, and I must say that I am greatly looking forward to it. My father may be the single greatest influence in my life, and Father’s Day is a way of honoring him. We don’t exchange gifts, nor do we dote, instead we exchange our time, our love, and our laughter, which means more than any trinket wrapped in shiny paper.
On this day, we exchange stories and ideas about what it means to be both father and son. We tell tales, laugh, and discuss serious matters that affect our children and us as fathers. We relay wisdom, and things we’ve learned over the years. It is the essence of what it means to be a father to me.
He has molded and shaped me, both good and bad. He is the voice of my conscience, and my moral compass. He is the one man that I still look to for guidance and aspire to be. Happy Father’s Day Dad, I love you.
Big D is a writer and host of The Mailman's Survival Guide Podcast. His goal is to raise awareness for the mental health community through writing, pod casting, and public speaking.